The Agreements We Make (& Break) With Ourselves13th February 2017 by Suz • No comments
So it occurred to me that we are half-way through the second month of 2017 and this is usually the time (if not sooner) that we start to let go of the agreements we made with ourselves on January 1 – eat better, get to the gym, watch less TV.
I was also reminded of the invaluable lessons I learned from the book, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. I know I’ve discussed this book many times before in past blogs and periscopes, but it bears repeating.
After a year of political polarizing, racial tensions, and controversial trials/protests, social media can often become a personal soap box for anyone with WiFi, with very little room/time for reflection, conversation, and forethought.
It can suck out the very essence of social media – personal connection.
Let’s be honest, we’ve all done it at some point regarding some message we feel strongly about. It doesn’t make us bad people. It can, however, hinder us from being our best selves and take away a greater sense of community.
The Four Agreements teaches us to be impeccable with our words (Agreement #1), to say what we mean and mean what we say. It also teaches us to not take things personally (Agreement #2) as people usually act from their projections of a perceived reality only they can see.
We are advised not to make assumptions (Agreement #3) and to achieve this by always asking more questions, always seeking to clarify information we’re given.
Most importantly, in my opinion, we are told to agree to always try our best (Agreement #4), functioning at our highest potential based on whatever that level is at any given time.
In other words, don’t beat yourself up for not giving 100% if you can’t, and forgive yourself if/when you break the other agreements. Always strive to do better next time.
So what’s the point of all of this, you ask?
As stress builds in certain areas of our lives, remember the agreements you make with yourself. Honor them. Make them a priority. Use them to learn from others. Ask more questions, even if they seem rhetorical.
Questions are what can bring us together, open the door to greater conversation, and improve empathy and wisdom.
So I’ll ask you – what agreement will you honor with yourself?
Reply back and let’s have a real conversation!
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